Our Love Inspired Me to Come Out to My Family | {THE AND} Whitney & Jade

Our Love Inspired Me to Come Out to My Family | {THE AND} Whitney & Jade


– How do you think your parents would react if you brought me home as your partner? (laughs) – (laughs) My god! – That’s funny.
– Wow! – That, I was not expecting that. (sound of cards shuffling) (sound of mouse clicking) – When you think about
the first time we met, what do you remember feeling? – (laughs) Oh my god, stop! I can’t get emotional already! (laughs) – Oh my god! (laughs) – Um, I feel like I’ve told you this. It was, like, well you
know I noticed you first, the second you entered the venue. And, I said “She can have
all my babies,” (laughs) – (laughs) – And I remember feeling like a weight was just lifted off me. I was like, “Oh my gosh!” Like, I felt happy again. Like Stop! Like, you know when I met you, it was just a relief. Stop, my god, the first question. This is too soon. – You know, just like you, we were both recent out of a break up. You know it was a Pride event, I thought I was just going out having fun with some friends, did not, was not looking,
expecting anything. Just wanted to have a good time. And then I met you. I saw you from across the room and you were dancing. I was like “Oh, this
white girl got some moves! “Okay,” (laughs) – (laughs) – So, then, you know, you were just very intriguing. Your energy was just different. Once we started speaking, it was just an energy that I just felt like I couldn’t get enough, so. It was just a very good feeling. One that just, you know, I wanted to have continuously. – Yeah. I know. – Yeah. – It was known. How do you describe our
relationship to others? – I feel like our relationship I feel like it’s one
of those relationships where you always aspire to have. You don’t think it’s real. And then not until
actually being with you, I’m like, damn, like, I feel like I’m in a fairy tale, because you give me everything that I always wanted to have in a relationship, but I just didn’t know
it was actually capable of, like, actually having. Like, obviously, you
know, no one’s perfect. But, like, you really
are like perfect to me. Because, literally,
anything I could ever want in a relationship, I get that from you. And I always felt like every relationship, you know, there’s gonna be, you know, issues you have, whether it’s you know, arguments or, you know, little toxic things that just kind of felt like that just kinda came with the territory. And then you, it’s like something fresh. And it’s just, like, wow, like, this isn’t difficult;
this isn’t a struggle. This is, again, it’s easy
loving you, you know. – I agree. – So I guess I’m next right? – Okay. – When do you think I feel closest to you? – You’re a Sag, and I feel like it’s easy for you to be on that surface level whereas the Scorp in me wants to, like, peel you back like an onion. And I feel like there’s been moments with, with or like topics around
your family or my family, that, like, you have kind of gone deeper. And I’ve seen the, like, little innards that make you, you. And the ways that make you
navigate certain things. And I feel like those are the moments that I think that you would feel closest to me. – Yeah, that goes into you just being very thoughtful. And there’s moments when I’m not used to having support and then you’re always there to give me support. So, I always appreciate that. Yeah. – How do our different upbringings affect our relationship? (laughs) – Uh – Odd question. – I feel like you grew up very different than I did. And that does come up often. Like we respond differently to things. We love differently, like,
we think differently. There’s just a lot of different – Almost everything.
– Yeah. Like we literally grew
up complete opposites. – Even just certain
things that you require and you need just in a
loving, affectionate manner. I’m not used to just giving that because I never received that. You know, because that’s
just how I grew up. But, I feel like that’s a big one. Emotionally. And like the whole
nurturing aspect of things. – I completely agree. Even in the moments
where I get frustrated, when you’re like, not, when we do have, like disagreements or we’re not like meeting each other I know that you’re never
doing it maliciously. – Yeah. – Like, I can always see
at the end that, like it was literally just a situation of us coming from different backgrounds. – Us being different people.
– Yeah. – And us not trying to, like, be malicious toward each other or be
hurtful toward each other. It’s just we needed to meet in the middle – Yeah
– And keep communicating. – It’s sometimes very hard
to meet in the middle. – Yeah. – But you know, we work towards it. – We do (laughs) – Is this me? – I think so. – I think so, well, I hope so. Oh (laughs) okay. What is the pain in me
you wish you could heal? Why are you all doing this? – (laughs)
– God! (laughs) – I wish I could Stop, I don’t wanna go. Shut up. – I can’t look at y’all. – Um, I wish I could fix everything with your mom. And honestly with your dad. That whole thing is,
like, really hard for me because my family means a lot to me. And, like, you know, not having, or like seeing you not have that thing is really hard, and like, hearing about, either from
you or from your friends about how your relationship was with her growing up compared to how I’ve only ever seen it is, like, shocking to me. – Yeah. – Yeah, which also makes it harder ’cause it’s not like you guys always had a bad
relationship or something. – Right – To me, you know, I’m like “Oh my gosh,” like, this drastic change has occurred over something that you’re just a human and you just love who you love and I just wish could she could see that. Um, and then with your dad, that’s just like wild to me. Like you’re just such a special person and I can’t imagine. You know? – Yeah. The fact that you don’t have him it’s just like, it just blows my mind. So, yeah, I wish I could just wrap that all in a little bow and like, give you this like perfect, loving situation that felt warm and welcoming for
you to go back home to. Yeah (laugh) and it clearly makes me very emotional. There’s no point in even
trying to wipe my face. Look at this. What does my love feel like? – It’s one of those things that you just can’t put into words. Almost like empowering. I really feel like with you, like, I can accomplish anything. Damn, I feel like I’m
getting emotional (laughs) Um, shit (laughs) Um, damn. I feel like you’ve changed my thought process. I’ve always looked at things like the glass half full. But there are times, you know, where I get very stressed and it’s very hard for me to see over me being stressed. And you’ve allow my mind
to just be like, okay. ‘Cause you said to me
before “I don’t know why “you’re stressed.” You’re like ” You always, like, you always come out on top.” And it’s like something so simple, but literally ever since you said that, if you noticed, I have
not been really stressed in a while, you know?
– Yeah (laughs) – And that’s part of that. And that just kinda like shows, like, how this love is. It’s just, like, you just always make me feel like we. You just make me feel
like on top of the world. You make me feel like
nothing else matters. Like it’s us against the world. I always feel like you’re
like my person, you know? And I feel like there’s
nothing we can’t accomplish. Nothing we can’t get through. I feel like, it’s like euphoric. Like, you know, it’s just being with you, is just a feeling I just really there’s like there’s no words to really put on how I feel,
because I just feel like the words don’t exist. But, I feel like our
love is very beautiful, and organic, and just so natural. And, again, easy. – Which is weird, ’cause
it’s easy between us. But it’s not easy in,
like, a greater sense. – Yeah, it’s a lot all at once – Yeah, like even – It’s like – Even without our families, like it’s – “Why is it so easy?”‘ Right! It’s like something that has been so hard for me is just so easy with you. And it just, I think
it allows us to be our like, best selves and
have our best relationship because we consider each other we care about each other, you know. We’re very intentional with, you know, making sure the other person feels heard and loved and all these things. – Yeah Crazy. – Yeah. If this were to be our last conversation, what’s something you
never want me to forget? You got it, baby, – Um (laughs) There’s a lot. It’s hard to, like,
nail it down, you know? – Yeah. – How much you mean to me. I feel like I’ve told you before that I never thought I would come out to my family. I knew that, like, this love meant enough to me to potentially like, put those relationships in jeopardy. And I was fully committed to doing that. And, like, fully ready to do that once I – Which I, I kinda didn’t even really want you to, because of that. You know I always just wanted you to be good in every aspect. – Yeah. – So that was like something
I was kinda dreading. – Yeah. – Especially to share it with your dad. – Yeah, it taught me, like, “Okay Whitney, you need to be an adult.” And like, phew. And it’s okay! And that was the biggest thing, too, like “Whitney you’re so upset “about these things, but like it’s okay. “This part of you is not a bad thing.” – Right. – And then how we just went and now I love you more than anything. – Want me to answer? – Yes! – Yeah, same. I would just let you know I love you and that you mean the word to me. And that there’s nobody else I would have wanted to do this with other than you. – Good. I love that (laughs) Do you know hard its been for me to sit across from and not, like, be touching you? – Touching, I know. – (laughs) – Very difficult. – What’s up beautiful people? If you wanna have more
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